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From the files of our never-ending quest to bubble-wrap our children, protecting them from all that is negative and scary, comes the latest tale of trying to make sure no one ever feels bad about anything.
Seems a minor hockey squad (eight-year-olds) in Ontario managed to eke out a 41-0 win over a rival team in recent action. Interestingly, though officials involved said there werensa国际传媒檛 a barrage of complaints, the news of such horror quickly spawned the usual array of examples of groups working to ensure losing big isnsa国际传媒檛 a thing.
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We seem determined to forget that (and not just in sport) a lot more these days.
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In any sport, I was always taught to play as hard as you could, all the time. If the result was too overwhelming for the other team, too bad.
If you did your best and still lost, that wasnsa国际传媒檛 the end of the world either. I remember in school a visiting British rugby side came for an exhibition and beat us by about 70 points.
Did we wilt and cry and feel bad about ourselves? No. It made us realize just how much work had to be done to get better.
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Get excited when you win, try to figure out what you can do better if you lose. Little kids whose team loses a blowout game wonsa国际传媒檛 be permanently scarred, theysa国际传媒檒l still just want to go to Dairy Queen.
Trying to teach them itsa国际传媒檚 not OK to excel or that changes will always be made to protect them from big losses might not always be the best course of action.
editor Philip Wolf can be reached at philip.wolf@blackpress.ca or follow him on and .
