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| The Harrap family pre-Liam. (Submitted) |
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I remember when I asked dad about what happened to mom. He was kneading bread at the time, his hands and arms wrapped in sticky dough. He suddenly stopped. A look of dread washed over his face as if the question had come sooner then he wished. Of course, I already knew the answer. She was dead.
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My dad raised me the best he could. He was the best father I could have asked for. While he had no money, he gave me something far more valuable. His time.
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What I know of my mom is from faint echoes left behind, like spaghetti spilled on white carpet. The noodles are gone but the marinara stains remain.
My sister said our mom was ahead of her time. She had real eclectic Bohemian style and wore fuchsia lipstick. Her drinks of choice were coffee and red wine. Mom had always wanted to go to Hawaii. Her favourite movie was Grease and while she loved to sing, she was terrible. Absolutely tone-deaf.
| Mom and me. My sister said mom didn't want me to see her dying as babies shouldn't be around death. So, I didn't spend much time with her for the last three months of her life. This photo was taken in the final grips of cancer. (Submitted) |
Apparently mom was also very good at making kimchi.
My sister said she has used mom as a guideline for life. Mom told her to avoid people who create drama and the importance of cherishing and maintaining close friends. My sister was 15 when mom died.
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She knew it was always important to be prepared for the worst. For example, mom kept candy and treats in her sewing machine. Just in case.
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